It’s hard to believe it’s been a month, at times it seems like just yesterday Elliot joined us and others it seems like he has been with us forever. So what exactly has this first month brought us? Lack of sleep for one. Yes, I am “going there” first. I know it’s some thing to expect but no matter how much you tell yourself “I’m gonna lose sleep” it doesn’t make it any easier. I am some one who gets extremely moody when I have less than say 7 hours a night, so this month has also brought on some grouchiness in me. I’m not proud of it- but it’s reality.
Another thing that hasn’t agreed with me this month is breastfeeding. There were times where it seemed like Elliot ate ALL day and night and I was losing my mind. I cried for hours and felt like crap cause I HATED breastfeeding- in essence I hated feeding my child. There I said it. It’s true. I know people say how it is such a bonding experience but for me it’s been anything but that. All I’d want to do is feed him and then pass him off. I would see others interact with him and get jealous that they got to be with the “good” Elliot. After a lot of thought, many tears and feelings of guilt I have decided I am going to try and make it to 6 weeks and then switch to formula. I’ve been talking with other Moms who had a rough time as well and they have been very encouraging. In the end I think it will be a good thing for us both cause another thing the first month has brought….
Cranky baby! Oh my, this just started last week it seems and seems to be getting worse each day. Every feeding he seems in distress during and after- even more so. The poor kid is a gas machine and most likely has some sort of food intolerance or colic. I am hoping switching to a formula will be good for him- maybe I am doing the breastfeeding thing all wrong and bottles will be a good thing…I can only hope.
Sorry this post is a little on the negative side- it’s how I tend to feel lately (although this seems to be getting better each day). I know the first month is the hardest and I do look forward to these next couple weeks/months when things change. I’ve enjoyed this little newborn phase but have a feeling I’ll REALLY enjoy this next little chapter coming up. Already I can see him growing (the boy is probably pushing 11 lbs by now and is no longer in his NB clothes) and he’s starting to grab and really hang on to fingers, hair and articles of clothes. He’s cracked plenty of smiles but I have yet to see one that is without a doubt intentional…I REALLY look forward to that cause his smiles are the cutest. He’s already got some acne (talk about growing up quick! LOL)..I know it will fade soon and it’s normal, I find it pretty cute since it’s mostly on his cheeks and just makes him look rosey. His hair seems to be turning more red than blonde which I initially thought is was- never would I have thought I would have a red headed child, but it appears I just may. His eyes are still blue and I have a feeling those will stick too. He loves falling asleep to the “Elliot Song” that I made up for him before he was born…I love that I can (at times) make him fall asleep (at least for a short while) when no one else can…he responds to my voice in a way that he doesn’t for anyone else and that I just love.
As I watch him now, asleep in his Rock N Play, stirring- ready to eat….I am going to try and remember this moment knowing he’ll never be this little again and soon things will change for us and how he is fed. It will be bittersweet I am sure.
Happy 1 month, Elliot!! You’ve taught me so much about myself- good and bad. You are a joy to all who meet you and the cutest guy I know…I look forward to this next month with you. You are loved, little one.